Esteem for Writers

The article is longer but these sections appealed to me and I want to remember them.

Affirm Your Esteem as a Writer
by Ron Kurtus (revised 3 April 2003)

Your esteem as a writer is established by self-appraisal of the quality of your work. You must constantly reaffirm that you area good writer. Self-esteem is fragile, and there are some who may try to lower your esteem through unfair criticism. You must not let others affect how you feel about your work. You should feel that your writing is good and certainly the best you can do.

Obviously, there are some people with more talented than you. Don’t compare yourself with the geniuses or the stars. Rather emulate them and use them as models.

Instead, compare yourself with the average and with your past abilities. If you are better than average, you can hold you head up high. If you are writing much better than you used to, it is something about which to be proud. That builds up your esteem.

There are also people looking to elevate themselves by putting others down. They will not only criticize your work but may make personal comments about you. “Your writing is terrible. And not only that, you’re fat too.”

Realize that such people aren’t talking about you. They are talking about themselves and their own insecurities. Consider the source and don’t let their opinions affect you. Rather, avoid getting an opinion from such people, if you can.

When you look at your work, you should be proud of what you did. You should feel that you do good work. You’ve got to constantly tell yourself this to overcome the negative people. Telling others may convince a few, but it may also be considered bragging.

One important thing in having pride in your work is to make sure that everything you write is well done. This includes letters to friends and relatives and e-mail. Always use a spell-checker before you send an e-mail. Use the spell-checker and grammar checker for any document written on a word processor, especially those you send to other people. Taking such care means you have pride in your work and affirms your self-esteem as a writer.

In conclusion
You must look at your work and feel it is well-done to have self-esteem as a writer. Compare yourself with the mass of writers. Remember that every writer is critiqued or edited. Don’t let critics get you down. Look at your work and reaffirm that you are a good writer. A writing career is a lot of work, but it is well worth the effort.

You do good work. You are a champion.

I’m 50 to 75% sure my application to be the new Community Manager for the Writing Centre at Suite101 is accepted. I’m very pleased, excited and slightly wondering how I’m possibly qualified. You know that feeling that you’re really a fraud and soon someone smarter, better, luckier will come along and tell everyone. eek. 🙂

Writing Mumbo Gumbo

I have written Bewitching Vagabond on BackWash for the past three years. But I have resigned now. Mainly due to the atmosphere on the site and especially in the discussions with site members and columnists. Things got ugly and columnists were behaving like predators, tearing into the pack animals who dared to speak about any topic. Anyway, it’s not the sort of place I want to be a part of any more. Once upon a time it was great. The site owner was more involved and available. There were always friendly chats every day and you felt as if you really were a part of the site. But, for the past year I’ve been feeling pretty much on my own there. So, when there are so many opportunities online (especially if you don’t mind not being paid) why stick with one that has gone sour?

I am looking more at Suite101. I started writing The Internet Unplugged there awhile ago. There was some turbulence but things are back on track now. I am liking it but I don’t feel I know the site yet. On the plus side, for me especially, it’s a Canadian site. I really do like knowing I’m writing freebie for Canadians. Charity begins at home and all that type of theory, eh?

What I would really and ideally like to do it restart InkSpot. Not with the same name, as I’m not into following someone’s path that closely, but to get another really great writer’s ezine out there, online. I have had contact over the years with a few great women writers and publishers. Bev Walton-Porter, Jade Walker and even the great Ms. Ohi herself (though not enough that she’d remember me). Surely they’d like to take a stab at reinventing this particular wheel. I just wish I had more self inflicted gumption and faith in my own self. Everyone here thinks my writing is a hobby, a silly hobby, and pretty much a waste of time. It’s so hard to crawl out from under that rock. Sometimes I don’t manage it and then I suddenly perk myself up and fling it off long enough to write another column, another article, another newsletter… Not long enough to become the writer I want to be. Not long enough to give myself a break and really get out there and accomplish all I want to do.

Anyway, I’m trying to adopt a writer’s topic at Suite101. Not sure which one will work out, if any. But I’d like to do something geared to web writers. I have a lot I can tell new writers. So many ideas and quite a few years worth of experience now, eight actually.

Well, time to crawl out from the rock again. I’m still writing on the adult side of BackWash but it’s so slow there I don’t think I will stay. I would like to find a replacement for it. It’s been nice having that outlet for my thoughts. I do miss old BackWash, the freewriting aspect and same for linkage. Any least little idea that popped into my head was writable and linkable. That is what I miss and what I will likely keep missing as there really isn’t another site that offers that lack of focus in topic. Still, there is always blogging. 🙂

Happy day to you.