I don’t like the leftover attitude about stay at home Mothers or housewives and the idea that women should be homemakers who look pretty for their man and do what they are told to do. It’s a small minded and ignorant way to treat something which is so much bigger and more important.
The world needs homemakers. Whether the person who looks after the children and the home is a man, woman or a couple, it’s a vital role. It’s a profession really. I wish it was given more credit and taken far more seriously than it is.
Being a Professional Homemaker
- The Retro Homemaker: The risks of choosing homemaking as a profession
- The Simple Life at Home: WFMW – Be a Professional Homemaker!
Homemaking is Important for the World and our Future
Years ago my Mother told me about a new TV show she had begun watching while she was in Florida. (My Mom is a Canadian snowbird). She said the show was really good, all about how to do the regular kind of things a lot of people have stopped doing, forgotten how to do or just never knew the right way to do them. That TV show was, The Martha Stewart Show. I still think about that when I see the Martha Stewart magazines in the book store and the grocery store aisle. (We don’t get the TV show here in Canada any longer.)
There are a lot of little homemaking skills which people don’t seem to know any more. How to clean things and how to place things and how to keep things run well.
All these skills used to be the work of women mainly. As my Mother said about my Grandparents, he works outside and she works inside. That was how they did it too. Rarely were there ever any cross-overs. But, later in life there were times my Grandmother wanted to garden and my Grandfather was happy to give her garden space in his garden. But, she wanted to plant potatoes and he didn’t. Of course, it was complicated by the fact that she insisted on planting her surprise potatoes in his rose garden. But, that was just an extra wrinkle to the tale.
Small things, the working together of people. So complicated and yet so very important.
Stay at Home Dads
- FIRA- Father Involvement Research Alliance
- Stay-at-home fathers face unique challenges – thestar.com
- Stay-at-home dads aren’t a novelty act – The Globe and Mail
- Could you be a stay-at-home dad? – Canadian Living
- Stay-at-Home Dads: No More Angst. These Guys Love What They Do | TIME.com
- Stay-at-home dad – Wikipedia
Stay at Home Moms Too
My Mother was (mostly) a stay at home Mom. At times she would go out to work part time. She worked at a Tim Horton’s donut shop, hospital admissions and drove for Honda as a test driver too. Later, when my little sister was in high school my Mom got into real estate – and did well, she liked it too.
Things are changing from the old days and that’s a good thing.
Modern Families Take Care of the Family, Together
Why are home making and housekeeping still so strongly associated with women? Yes, it’s a traditional thing for the women to stay at home with the children and look after the home. But, that was a role outdated at least twenty years ago. Men can be at home looking after children and the home now. But, more often couples work together. Men and women take on the care of children and the usual skills, crafts and work of making a home and housework.
Are people still so deeply caught up in the past or do we just not give men any due credit? I know men who do a wonderful job with their children. I know couples who work together to get everything done, after their standard 9 to 5 work day.