Limerence: Love Sickness

I found a new word and an interesting idea (medical condition in reality) to write about in Letter Lover.

The condition of which I’m speaking is called limerence, which is “defined as an involuntary interpersonal state that involves an acute longing for emotional reciprocation, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and emotional dependence on another person.”

It’s basically the clinical way of saying it can take years for a limerent person to overcome a broken heart. It sounds strange, I realize, but it is very real and all consuming. A man named Albert Wakin has done extensive research on the condition.

How would you write about someone pining for a loved one? Does it make a difference if the love is lost through death or just not returned? What would you feel about a person who is limerent? Are they a romantic, too sensitive or just plain love sick?

Have Faith in Your Ideas

Don’t beg, rather pitch properly: Let’s face it, if you actually have a great product or event, you will not have to beg anyone to show up. Only problem is, when ideas aren’t sold properly they devalue you and will most probably make anything you send to be overlooked.

via Working with Bloggers | Joe Akkawi.

If you don’t have faith in what you are saying/ writing how can you expect anyone else to? When you are writing a blog post, a query letter, anything which you want to get results from, don’t write it unless you are feeling confident, strong and have faith in what you are writing. Take a break if you need to. Write a draft and then come back to it when you feel stronger and edit it from that point of view. Give everything you do a good chance to succeed!

Dead Advice

Every letter on Dead Advice begins with the same first sentence: “Now that I’m dead, I want to tell you a few things.”

Imagine, for a moment, that you have just died. If you had to look back over the arc of your life as it stands today, what stories would you tell? What lessons would you share, what things might you regret or confess?

Some letters may be specific: a note to the young, or to a child that has yet to be born. Other letters may be larger and more sweeping, choosing instead to address the whole of the world… the rest of us still living. Who you choose to write your letter to, along with what you say, is ultimately up to you.

Whether you’re sixteen or sixty, you have a story to tell – some bit of advice or guidance to give. There is someone out there who is waiting to hear from you, someone who can benefit from your experiences and your point of view.

The letters shared here are intended to give us perspective – to help us see our lives and ourselves more clearly. Dead Advice is meant to help keep the big picture a little bigger, and a little more in focus.

For the Letter Writers

I’ve written about letter writing before: Letter Writing and Letter Writing Fading to Black.

But, it’s time for another look, to see what’s new, what I missed and just for the sake of the letter writers themselves (they who need to be appreciated).

“Letter writing is the only device for combining solitude with good company.”  –  Lord Byron

Resources:

Letter Writers Alliance –  (Blog)  (Twitter)  (Flickr)

Flickr: The Art of Letter Writing

 Letters & Journals

The Missive Haven

A Year of Letters

 Letter Lover

The Letter Writing Revolution

365 Letters Blog

The Letter Jar

Going Postal – You can’t get far (literally) with letter writing without the postal service/ snail mail. Yet, it’s becoming less necessary for communications. During the latest postal strike here in Ontario many people wondered how clever the postal workers union was to strike now. People are already using the service less due to the Internet. How long will it take for the post office and snail mail to become a hobby for letter writers and otherwise not very practical for business and communications in general.

Save Snail Mail –  (Twitter)

Viva Snail Mail

Twitter: Postage Service – “Perpetuating the beauty of postage stamps through practical & artistic applications!”

Smithsonian National Postal Museum

The British Postal Museum

Save the Paper – The debate about the possible demise of paper communications (books, newspapers, letters and any others of the like) is ongoing.

(From Domtar) Paper Because

Domtar is committed to the responsible use of paper. We’re also committed to communicating paper’s place and value to the businesses and people that use our products every day. Paper is a sustainable, renewable, recyclable, plant-based product that connects us in so many ways to the important things in life. Great ideas are started on paper. The world is educated on paper. Businesses are founded on paper. Love is professed on paper. Important news is spread on paper.

Dear Writer’s Block…

Writing prompt found on Twitter from the (extinct) PP2 Writing Group.

Write a letter breaking up with Writer’s Block, starting out with, “Dear Writer’s Block, it’s not you, it’s me … .”

I wrote one quickly. Not too deep or especially useful.

Dear Writer’s Block,

It’s not you, it’s me… I’m sick of your procrastinating ways. I’m fed up with all the time you want to spend on Facebook, Twitter and fluffing around in general.

Well, what do you know… looks like it’s actually you after all.

Laura

The 365 Phenomenon

What could you see yourself doing every day for a year? Not basic stuff like eating breakfast, brushing your teeth, etc. But some kind of creative endeavour. I’ve been getting hooked on the 365 things lately. There are quite a few of them out there. I don’t know where or who it started with. Here are some I know of:

Make Something 365

Project 365

365 ProjectTwitter – A photograph every day for a year.

Photo 365

Mini 365

365: Make a Book a Day

365 Days of Make and Bake

Crafting 365

Flickr: 365 Days, the knitterly and crafty types

Flickr: 365

Flickr: 365 Days (Self portraits).

365 Letters – Writing a letter every day.

Clouds 365

The Blogging from A to Z Challenge

You can find The Blogging from A to Z Challenge on Tossing it Out. The challenge runs for all of April, 2011. Can you make a post for each letter of the alphabet?

The premise of the Blogging From A to Z April Challenge is to post something on your blog every day in April except for Sundays. In doing this you will have 26 blog posts–one for each letter of the alphabet. Each day you will theme your post according to a letter of the alphabet.

You will only be limited by your own imagination in this challenge. There is an unlimited universe of possibilities. You can post essays, short pieces of fiction, poetry, recipes, travel sketches, or anything else you would like to write about. You don’t have to be a writer to do this. You can post photos, including samples of your own art or craftwork. Everyone who blogs can post from A to Z.

Paper is Sexy

I have a letter sent in the mail from a corporation. The paper is sexy. It feels smooth, silky even. The envelope was the same quality of paper. It feels like luxury, decadence and lust all on a page, blank on one side. How can you resist doing something with such marvelous paper? I saved it a few days. Just enjoying having it around. Today I made my first drawing on it.

It’s a shame I’m not a better artist. Someone who could draw something truly amazing. But, isn’t part of art just showing your emotions, your feelings, expression at heart? So that is what I did. I still have room to draw more. There is even some space on the front, the letter side, that I can use.

How to Write a Romantic Valentine

Make a list of things you like about your Valentine. Think of complimentary things to say. What do they like about themselves? Did they do something you really like lately? Does your Valentine have a smile that lights up the room? Does your Valentine make you feel happy just to see him or her? Compliments don’t have to be complicated. Just write about how your Valentine makes you feel.

How will you write the Valentine? Poetry or letter style? There are many types of poetry to choose from: rhymes, haiku, limericks and others. You could even turn it into a short story with a “Once upon a time” and a “Happlily ever after”.

Suggest a romantic encounter for Valentines Day. Or remember a past day you had together and suggest a repeat or something similar.

Hand write your Valentine. Use your best penmanship, maybe coloured pens. Draw hearts and other romantic images with pencil crayons. Choose fancy stationery or a store bought card with lots of room to write inside.

End your Valentine with “Happy Valentines Day” or something more inspired. Sign your name. Add some hugs and kisses with x’s and o’s.

Think of little extras like your cologne or perfume (just a touch, don’t drench it), maybe some Valentine stickers, tape some artificial flowers to the envelope once you seal the note inside. You could add a gift certificate to somewhere you both enjoy as a suggestion to meet there on Valentines Day. Add a photo of the two of you together if you have one.

How will you deliver the Valentine? Left on the doorstep (in a plastic baggie so the snow doesn’t get it wet)? Delivered yourself with a kiss, a hug or a sexy smile? Included in flowers or chocolates or some other special gift? Maybe something more exotic involving freshly washed sheets or luxurious bath bubbles?